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We’re only a few weeks into 2023, but the trendy topic “pee diddy” has let me know it’s not the year to embrace sexually liberated black women as part of society. .in a recent episode of her show boyfriend please Guest and rapper Trina, “Jung Miami,” aka Kalesha Brownlee, has revealed that she likes having her partner urinate. Also known as “water sports,” the “golden shower” involves urinating as part of the kink. A golden shower is when someone urinates directly on another person. But it also includes someone drinking urine or gargling.
Whether you’re in the golden shower or not, it’s never okay to twist and humiliate someone for their sexual desires. Conversations about sexuality are often considered taboo or inappropriate in the Black community, but this should not be. When we view sex holistically as bringing pleasure and pleasure instead of shame and guilt, it is essential to be able to speak openly about our sexual desires and interests without judgment or fear of repercussions. , we as Black women should take the lead to help normalize outspoken talk about sex, rather than playing respectable politics.
This is a stance many of my fellow black femme writers also hold. Like sex…”
she is right About 52,500 adult heterosexual, lesbian, gay, and bisexual adults in the United States were surveyed in a study titled Differences in Orgasm Frequency Between Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Heterosexual Men and Women in a US National SampleAccording to the study, 95% of heterosexual men had an orgasm during sex, while 65% of heterosexual women were the least likely of all groups surveyed. It was something. Another study published in The Journal of Sex Research reported that couples who communicate more tend to have better sex lives than those who don’t. If a woman is last on the orgasm list and having a conversation about sex can solve it….why are we ashamed of Kalesha? As a gender, there is no room for shame on others about what is going on in our bedroom when we are not having an orgasm.
We have to move beyond the notion that certain types of sex are for “funny white people.” Kinky sex isn’t a “white thing”, it’s about sex. Black people use kinky sex to give them freedom and power. But most of all, some people find it fun. If a golden shower makes Kalesha happy and helps her reach orgasm at night, so be it. Frankly, you weren’t asking for our opinion. Part of the liberation you get from being sexually open is IDGAF’s attitude about what other people think of your interests. No one but you and your partner has to like it.
I’m glad Kalesha felt open enough to share her kinks with the world. I look forward to the day when all black women can do the same: being open about their desires and communicating honestly with her partner can bring mutual satisfaction and pleasure.What’s the point of sex if we’re both No satisfaction? Additionally, honesty is a very important part of any intimate relationship, so expressing yourself openly can help build trust in a relationship.
I plead with more black women to celebrate other black women who have found the sexual liberation that many of us wanted. . There is no harm in openly exploring your sexuality if done responsibly. Just joy.
